Communication Styles That Can Affect Divorce

May 3, 2017

Is it possible to predict divorce?  With 90% accuracy Dr. Gottman, Professor Emeritus in Psychology from the University of Washington, can predict whether or not a couple will divorce.  Dr. Gottman based his predictions on four factors which he called the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.  In the New Testament the Four Horseman metaphor is used to depict the end of times.  Dr.  Gottman uses this metaphor to describe the communication styles which can predict the end of the relationship.  

Do You Feel Down, Sad, or Depressed?

May 24, 2017

Do you ever feel down, sad, or depressed and have no idea why you feel this way?  Everyone occasionally feels like this, but when it is a constant feeling that never seems to go away, your thoughts might be overwhelmingly negative.

Stop Walking on Eggshells

June 08, 2017

​Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells most of the time with a friend or family member? 
Are you on edge because you don’t know when something you do or say will “set them off” to berate you? 

​Does this person have intense mood swings where one moment they are happy, but a short time later they are deeply depressed or anxious?

How Lack of Sleep Affects Anxiety

March 29, 2017

Anxiety can be affected by various factors such as stress, genetics, trauma and worrisome thoughts.  Even our physiology can contribute to anxiety. Research suggests that constant sleep deprivation can actually cause an anxiety disorder.[1]

Loss of Enjoyment

April 04, 2017

One of the most frustrating aspects of having depression or an anxiety disorder is the loss of enjoyment. Imagine yourself watching your favorite movie.  You usually laugh at certain parts and really enjoy it.  But this time you feel nothing. 

In both situations your emotions are numb.  You desperately want to feel enjoyment.   You want to be having fun but the emotion feels dead.Sadly this is the way many people who have anxiety and depression feel.

The Number One Marriage Killer

February 01, 2018

Dr. Sue Johnson considers the Pursue-Withdraw pattern the most common marriage killer.  She describes this pattern as if one partner is banging on the door and the other partner is on the other side securing the locks.

My Journey with Burnout

April 26, 2017

In the Spring of 2015 I began to experience constant anxiety and restlessness from the moment I woke up to the moment I fell asleep.  It was the same type of anxiety I would get before writing a tough final exam.  My stomach hurt all the time.  My jaw ached from being clenched tight.  Sometimes I even looked like Commissioner Dreyfus from the Pink Panther movies as my left eye twitched uncontrollably.


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Stress Management

April 12, 2017

Many of us remember the horrible tragedy of the Twin Towers collapsing after the terrorist attack in 2001.  Not surprisingly, many of the survivors developed panic attacks and increased anxiety.   The city of New York graciously paid for their therapy in the hopes that they could recover.  A few years later a New York city task force asked these survivors to list the most effect therapy that helped them.  Their answers may surprise you!